As I’ve mentioned before, I learned a lot during my summer as an assistant to a wedding planner. Among the things I learned is the fact that most women cannot pull off the sleeveless look. There is a very specific ratio of shoulder to arm to chest to rest of body that is necessary to not look well, kind of creepy really. Few women can actually do this.

Michelle Obama? Is one of these women. However, the media has decided that apparently, her arms are the only thing worth talking about her. As this kind of awesome video highlights, there are plenty of other things about her that can be commented on. But she has awesome arms, so who cares about her Ivy League education or professional history. It’s far more important that the First Lady appear Lady-like than actually act as a First Lady.

Of course, after the invention and popularization of television, the president also has to look presidential. That’s part of the reason Kennedy “won” the debates back in 1960, after all. Those who only heard the Kennedy v. Nixon speech had thought that Nixon won. However, those who had watched it – a far larger population – thought that Kennedy, the better looking candidate, had won.


The summer after Freshmen year of college, I worked as an assistant to a wedding planner. I learned many interesting things during that time (including how much I really didn’t want to be a wedding planner) about weddings, wedding traditions, brides, and duct tape. My boss really liked her trivia, so I spent a very large amount of time researching wedding traditions and history.

Guess what? White dresses don’t equal purity. The tradition actually started during the time of Queen Victoria. And a white dress did not mean a virgin bride – though of course it can. A white dress actually shows that the woman wearing it has the money and opportunity to buy a dress in a non-practical color that she will never wear again. Shocking.

Personally, I never wanted a white dress. I know what colors look good on me and white? Is not one of them. With my combination of skin tone and hair color, I pull of bright, bold colors far better than white or pastel. But that article actually makes me want to go and find a big, white puffy dress for my far, distant future wedding.

Want to know what one of the biggest rules of throwing a wedding is? Make it your day. Stick to tradition or don’t, go for an all white wedding or not, just make it your day. As long as you’re happy and the flowers don’t catch on fire, everything is perfect.