Oh gender stereotyping, how I love you. Apparently women don’t like sports. (The blog post is making the opposite point, I however don’t actually have Cosmo to refer to.)

Personally, I’m not a big fan of sports. I find them rather boring to watch, and I’m not too good at them. But that’s my personal quirk and has very little to do with my gender and a lot more to do with the fact that I have no patience or attention span.

Also, I will most certainly not watch something just because a guy sitting next to me wants. (Of course, in my personal case it is far more likely to be a battle of Battlestar Galactica v. Star Trek rather than football v. a romantic comedy). What I find very interesting is that the people quoted in the article are supposed to be good at getting couples to stay together. HOWEVER, their advice is actually going against this goal. Couples that stick to traditional gender roles and interests are more likely to break up or get divorced than more adrogynous couples. (Androgynous here being used to describe gender roles rather than actual gender.)

Look at it this way, who has more in common and more to talk about: a stay-at-home mom who’s life revolves around her children and her businessman husband who spends his entire day surrounded by numbers or a two individuals who both work in the same industry? Generally, two people who share a job or interests or hobbies or anything else in common will get along better than two people who are nearly strangers to each other.

When did competition become a bad thing? Last I checked, competition inspired you to do your best. Through competition, we strive to go above our peers and above our own goals. Competition is what keeps our economy afloat. Through competition, we get better goods and services and higher grades. Competition inspires us to do our best.

Sure, taken to the extreme we get Enron and parents who try to commit murder when their child does not get an A. But over all, some level of competitiveness is good.

That’s why this just bothers me. What did the coach and his team do wrong? It was a competition, they did their best. It just happened that their best was far ahead of the other team. But last I checked, winners get rewarded and losers, well, don’t. In what world does this make sense? They’re basically punishing the girls for giving it their all and having a fair game.

One more thing I’m curious about: what if all the players involved were boys? From my many psychology classes, I’ve learned that girls are not expected to be as competitive as boys though now days there is also the discrepancy in that they both want to be successful but still remain demur. So if it was two teams of boys, a gender far more encouraged to be competitive, would the reaction have been as strong? Would the winning team be forced to apologize for winning?

I simply do not see the logic here. Both teams did their best. This was the outcome. No one cheated, everyone played by the rules. Well, at least the girls from the winning team learned a very important lesson: Life’s not Fair.